I’ve hit a stumbling block recently. In fact, it’s a stumbling block I keep on tripping up on. I stumble, get past it, keep going, then rediscover the same block and stumble all over again. Like Groundhog Day.
And what is this obstacle, I hear you ask?
Fear of the unknown, fear of not knowing what to do, fear of getting it wrong, fear of failure, fear of things not turning out the way I want them to. And this fear has a habit of stopping me from doing anything. Because what if I do something but do it wrong? So, instead I don’t do anything. Great tactic, I know.
Fear can be paralysing, stopping you from doing anything useful and making you feel completely stuck, incapable of moving forward.
But what to do?
I’ve found that the best way of tackling this is two-fold. First of all, try to identify exactly where the fear stems from. What is it about the task/situation/scenario that makes you fearful? When is it that the fear starts to creep in? Really pick apart how you’re feeling and why. Once you’ve got a good understanding of that, you’re more well equipped to deal with it.
Once you’ve figured out the source of the fear, think logically through the worst-case scenario. If you got it wrong, what would that mean? If it doesn’t turn out the way you’d imagine, is that a bad thing? What’s wrong with the unknown? 9 times out of 10 the worst-case scenario isn’t nearly as bad as our overactive imaginations would have us think.
And what if we were to put a more positive spin on it…. What amazing things could be in the unknown? What if things turn out better than you’d imagined? How awesome could things be if you could get past that stumbling block?
The best advice (and the advice I give myself every day) is to face the fear and do it anyway. I can promise you you’ll love and respect yourself more if you do.
And just ask yourself this…
“What’s the best that could happen?”
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