The Write Off Complex


I’m going to be honest with you all,  I had a tough week last week. As Coaches we help people find solutions to their problems and move forwards in their lives.  But we cannot coach ourselves. I’m a firm believer in the power and value of coaching (why else would I have trained to be a coach?!) and love seeing my clients get results. I also love the buzz that I get from being coached myself on a regular basis. There’s no shortage of ‘epiphany’ moments and how can that ever be anything other than awesome?

However, this past week I’ve fallen into the trap of what I like to call, ‘The Write Off Complex’. I had a slow day on Monday and Tuesday, and rather than picking myself up on Wednesday I pretty much wrote off the rest of the week. This in turn led to me feeling fed up and demotivated. I began questioning myself and my work and became a bit of a self-pitying grump.

Now I tell you this for two reasons.

  1. I think ‘The Write Off Complex’ is something we all suffer from every now and again.

  2. Coaches aren’t perfect!

We all have our down days. Or in my case, a down week. But it’s important to not berate yourself and let the voices in your head bully you (read more about your inner voice here -

A friend of mine once gave me the best advice regarding ‘The Write Off Complex’. I was attempting to lose weight and had been eating healthily for weeks. However, one day I pretty much consumed everything in sight. Chocolate, biscuits, crisps, chips, I even had sugar in my tea because I felt like it. The next day I felt terrible and complained to my friend that I had unleashed my inner food-beast. I felt like I was going to pile all my weight back on as I wouldn’t be able to stop myself from eating naughty things now that I’d had a bad day. My lovely and patient friend said,

“If you have a bunch of flowers and one of the flowers wilts, do you throw away the entire bunch? No. It’s the same with the days of the week. If you have one bad day it doesn’t mean you have to write off the rest of the week. Pick yourself up and carry on.”

And she was right.

The same goes for last week. I had an off-week and decided to relax at the weekend, guilt free. I needed some time away from the pressure I put myself under and with friends who fill me with positivity. Now it’s a new week and I’m ready to go again, back to my usual positive self.

So my advice to you is this:

If you have a bad day, don’t throw out the whole week.

What do you need to put in place to move past the negativity or procrastination? Do you need to step away and get outside? Maybe you need to write a list to give you some structure? Perhaps you could set a timer and see how much you could get done in the allotted time slot?

Whatever you do, don’t beat yourself up. Treat yourself with care and support yourself in the way you would a friend in a time of need.

For more information on ‘The Write Off Complex’ and how you can move past it, get in touch.