If you’re a regular reader of my blog (so you’re the one!) then you’ll have noticed that I haven’t posted anything for the last three or so weeks. I’ll admit that there was a nice little holiday to Malta thrown in there so that accounts for some of the time I was absent. But there’s also been a good couple of weeks where I just haven’t been sitting down and writing anything.
The problem is, once you stop doing something that has become a routine it can be bloody hard to get going again. You fall out of your natural rhythm and new habits are quickly lost. And when the gap between stopping and starting again increases, fear and doubt starts to creep in. Combine that with lack of motivation and you’ve well and truly fallen off the wagon.
I started to doubt my writing skills and the quality of my content. I looked at other people’s blogs and thought that they were amazing. I told myself that anything I might want to write has probably been covered anyway, so what’s the point?
If you’ve read my previous blog about negative self-talk then you’ll recognise what I was doing to myself (and if you haven’t read it, where’ve you been?! Check it out here: http://www.licencetolive.com/news/friendorfoe). My little negative inner voice was creeping back in and I was giving it space to do so. It happens. The best thing you can possibly do is acknowledge it, not beat yourself up for it, pick yourself up and get back on the horse.
Time spent worrying about time wasted is just that. More time wasted. And the only purpose that serves is to feed your negative inner voice.
Don’t feed it - starve the bitch out!
Draw a line under what’s been done, be kind to yourself and find your natural rhythm again. Habits that you’ve slipped in or out of can be picked back up. Routines can be rediscovered. It doesn’t have to be as momentous as you’re currently making it.
So here I am, getting back on the horse. There’s still some other routines that I need to get back into such as going to the gym but I’m being kinder to myself rather than punishing myself for slipping.
What routines have you let slip that you’d like to start up again? Maybe you had got used to getting up an hour earlier in the morning so you had some extra time to get things done but have stopped due to the summer holidays. What value did that extra time give you? How did you feel when you were in that routine? What benefit would it give you to start it up again?
What habits have you spent time forming but have slipped out of? Perhaps you’ve made it your mission to only have a glass or two of wine at weekends rather than drinking mid-week (*holds up hand*). If your mission is weight loss then picking that habit up again could make a big difference when you step on those scales.
Really spend some time now thinking about what habits you’d like to form or pick up again. Write them down if it helps. Now think about how you can start implementing that. What’s the first step? How will you feel once you’ve started? What will it do to your negative inner voice?
My point is this - it’s ok to fall of the horse. It happens. What’s not ok is to continue rolling around in the mud blaming yourself and wondering why these things always happen to you. Get back up, dust yourself off and climb up into the saddle. No one can do that but you.
You won’t regret it.
P.S. I’d love to hear how you’re getting on!
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