What are some of your most memorable moments from primary school? What really stands out?
I have a handful of things that I remember vividly. Coming back from the toilet with my skirt tucked into my knickers was fairly embarrassing. Being a pro on the monkey bars at break was a highlight. I fondly remember a couple of stand out teachers who made a real impression on me. I have this small collection of memories that I can play back at any time like a movie in my mind. I’m sure you’re sat there now doing something similar with your own stories.
What about what you learnt at primary school? What do you remember learning in class? Reading, writing, some history, perhaps some interesting science experiments? I remember all of these too.
What they never taught me in school was self-acceptance. And seeing as the national curriculum is pretty similar wherever you’re based, I think I can presume with some confidence that you weren’t taught that either.
Now I’m not saying that what we learnt wasn’t important, of course it was. What I am saying is that if we had learnt to accept ourselves for who we are at a young age, it could have saved us a lot of struggle and self-deprecation as adults.
How different might you feel now if you had been taught as a child to:
Approve of yourself
Where would your confidence be? How much would you be achieving? If you had a bad day, how would you deal with it? If you were struggling with something, how would you cope? Take a moment to imagine yourself as that person. Someone who loves, approves and accepts themselves. How do you feel?
If, like me, you weren’t taught to do those things at school, why don’t you learn them now? As human beings we are constantly learning, adapting and evolving. That’s one of the reasons you’re receiving these daily emails. For the purpose of learning and self-development.
And know this:
It’s never too late to learn to love yourself.
A lot of the clients I work with have got stuck in a negative mindset through habits that have been formed over years. The first step in breaking these habits is to acknowledge them. Once we’ve done that we can start forming new ones. I’m a firm believer in the power of positive affirmations and the benefits you can get from using them.
I want you to try something for me. I want you to stand in front of a mirror and really look at yourself. Look at yourself with kindness and compassion. Now, either out loud or in your head, make a positive affirmation about yourself. Some examples are below to help get you started:
‘I approve of myself, I’m working hard to achieve the goals I set, I accept myself’
‘I am allowed to make mistakes and learn from them, I accept myself’
‘I accept and love myself unconditionally’
These affirmations can be tailored to you and your circumstances, the important thing is to make them positive and to make them about acceptance. Try this every morning for a week and see if it makes a change. Also, whenever you make a negative comment about yourself, back it up with a positive affirmation. It’s about trying to break the chain that has been formed.
It’s ok to have flaws (who doesn’t?!), what’s not ok is to beat yourself up about it. Accept your flaws, they’re part of the thousands of things that make up you as a person. And you’re an incredible human being, made up of millions of things that make you unique. Accepting that and learning to love yourself will set you free.
I’d love to hear some of the positive affirmations you use, please do get in touch and let me know!
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Have a fantastic weekend. And remember, you’re awesome!