Bit of a cheeky title to lure you in, eh?
But seriously - let’s talk about this.
Everyone is totally, endlessly irresistible.
In an effortless way which attracts lovers, partners, friends - even careers, opportunities and conversations.
This is what it really all boils down to:
EVERYONE - ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE - has charisma.
That incredibly dynamic colleague of yours; the one who dazzles whenever they present something? They don’t have any more charisma than anyone else.
The one in your friendship group who effortlessly exudes sassy confidence? Neither do they.
That hilarious person you love being around, whose quick-witted humour lights up the room? We’re alll equals.
The one who quietly, sensitively seems to understand everyone around them with total ease and love? Snapsies.
Even the heroine/hero of your favourite, most inspirational read… we’re completely neck and neck.
It might be that you’re already pretty clued up on your personal areas of ‘wow’, and (hopefully) wear your ‘wow’ traits with pride.
But for others, it can be so dangerously easy to define charisma; based on where we secretly identify ‘lack’ in ourselves… because where there is comparison; guess what?
Lack follows along like a stray cat.
And where we find ourselves lacking (even if it’s all in our head!) we usually begin to limit ourselves. Our choices, our options, our potential.
Everyone is irresistible.
Everyone has charisma.
Everyone is magnetic. YOU are magnetic!
So how do you go from believing you aren’t enough of something… to believing that you are more than enough, and have been all along?
It starts with tuning in to you.
The realest, clearest and most honest version of you - as you are, right now in this moment.
Because as long as it isn’t being hidden away… As long as it isn’t being denied… Every single side of your personality is alive with charismatic energy… even if it is the quietest, shyest and most secret side of you.
The bare bones of charisma lie in authenticity.
It really doesn’t matter which traits are louder, bolder or shinier… what matters is they are truly yours, and you are brave enough to embrace, own and wear them honestly.
Because someone, or something, always wants and needs what you’ve got to offer - just as you are!
Are you a fantastic listener?
Someone who notices the tiniest details?
The one who doesn’t mince her words?
Someone who passionately stands up for what they believe in?
The kind of person who thrives in their own company?
The energetic whirlwind who can’t stay still?!
Whoever you are; whatever makes you YOU - there isn’t anyone else out there quite like you.
Your combination of traits are already lined up beautifully; accepting them is what makes you magnetic.
That in itself is a waterfall of charisma.
Utterly captivated (as always!),
J & L xx